monk-458491_640I’ve been toying with the idea of yoga since I got into the “self-help” arena.  I know so many who say that yoga is a great way to connect to the body and to feel. I picture everyone in their cute outfits, chanting “ohm” and breathing.  Changing position every so often. Feeling relaxed, connected, grounded and centered when you leave.

So my opportunity came.  I met a mom of one of my kid’s friends…is there a name for that?  You’re not quite friends, but you are by default because your kids are in the same class.  Mom-friend? There should be something way cooler than that, because it’s a really unique relationship.  Anyway… she invited me to join her after I talked my journey thus far and she asked if I tried Yoga.  “No, but I want to” and this anxiety ridden day was born.

untitled-designThis weekend my husband and I had a painful, gut wrenching discussion about our relationship.  It was one of the hardest talks we’ve had.  All of this leading up from six months of hell.  Ok, that’s a bit dramatic considering the state of the world, but to our little family, it felt like the longest, toughest, most disconnected six months of our lives.

You see, my dear husband works for a car part manufacturer and they’ve had two model changes this year, which means, all new machines to make all new parts.  To prepare for this exciting adventure, he had to travel to Canada several times starting in December of 2015, to check on the machines that were being build to make sure they were up to standard.  He traveled many times over the months of January to May.  Then the shit hit the fan when the model change happened in July.  He’s worked 12-16 hour days since then, including Saturdays.  It’s gotten so bad that one Sunday as we were leaving for church, my oldest said “hey, dad’s home, what are you doing here?”.  (No joke I just got a text saying he won’t be home until 7:30pm tonight).  So needless to say, it’s been hard to stay connected.  Not to mention all the years previous he had worked late and left me with three small children to take care of which drove me, literally, crazy, but more on that another time.

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Here are some of the benefits we use it for:

Over the past few months, I have been struggling.  Struggling with an overwhelming heaviness.  Sometimes deep despair that I don’t know if I’ll ever come out of, but also at the same time, I try to find the lesson I’m supposed to learn through it.  We are It's ok to be sadtrying to sell our house, after which we are going to build our dream home.  My husband is working 80+ hours a week, while I am trying to keep our house “up” in case a random buyer wants to look at the house.  All while taking care of three kids and running to this practice and that meeting.

LoveI admit, I never had one doubt that Hilary would win.  It never even crossed my mind that Trump COULD win, or even be close.  How could someone so with so many heinous actions and accusations against him, win America’s vote? My shock and horror watching last night’s results come in remind me of how I felt watching the twin towers blazing and fall to the ground on 9/11.  I was speechless, afraid, horrified and angry.  How could this happen?  Am I safe? Are my kids safe?  What is going to happen to our future? What will I tell my kids?  Is our country not what I thought it was?  I even cried (over an election?) because of the disappointment in our collective values.  It made me question whether we are moving forward in our collective consciousness or if everyone is still on the hamster wheel of life.

Love not Hate

After 9/11 we banded together with a steadfast cause.  To unite, to defy an enemy and to stand together.  This is not that.  BUT I did feel my call to change my life and live for love more now than ever.  I will focus on love, not hate.  Empathy, not judgement.  Understanding, not fear. I am shifting my focus to what I want to happen instead of being the victim of the circumstances around me.  I will let go of what I don’t have control over and start focusing on what I do want in my life, family and world. I am taking my power back.

I don’t know what this will look like, but I believe we take this momentum of disappointment and use that energy to make change.  Let’s show America and the world that America is not hate and fear, it is love and hope.  I pray for all of us to awaken to our inner call for something more.  We are more, there is more. Our capacity to love and help others is infinite, so let’s spread this message rather than feel defeated.  Will you join me?

Love WarriorHoly smokes! I just finished reading ‘Love Warrior‘ by Glennon Doyle Melton.  What a great writer!  She has such a gift with words!  When I grow up, I want to be her!  I just love how I keep asking for more and more insight, and the universe keeps on delivering.  This book was raw, humbling and uplifting. She articulated her experience with her body issues that I could relate to in a way I’ve never heard them explained before.  I know exactly what she was going through because I experience these feelings too.

PeaceHave you ever been in a funk you couldn’t get out of?  It’s exhausting, draining, toxic on you and everyone around you.  Everyday feels like a rainy, dreary day.  It’s been too long since you felt excited about something.  I have felt this way for over two months before.  It took someone hitting me over the head with some real self examination at my habits to discover how to get myself out of the funk!

I love you
From my dear son


1. Develop a daily habit of gratitude

Practice daily gratitude with a gratitude journal or during meditation in the morning and evening.

I am on a journey.  To find confidence, peace and purpose.  I want to tame the chaos which I have lived in for many years.  After having my third child, I realized that I didn’t know who I was anymore.  I literally felt crazy.  I couldn’t concentrate, I was spinning my wheels and I would cry often and yell even more often.  Mostly at my kids, sometimes at my husband. I couldn’t take it anymore….I had to get my life under control.

Hungry for ChangeSo I googled it.

Google: Make my life better

I started where I thought I could have the most control and had previous success…weight loss.  At that time, I was tipping the scales at